On Email Addresses and Relationships

A newly-wed friend posted a picture of her new business card with her new name on it. Someone commented she should change her email address as well.


It reminded me how convenient my email address is because it doesn't carry my family name, so when I get married, I won't have to change it.

But then... I remembered how I feel I'm supposed to be alone my whole life. I don't intend to get married at all, let alone be committed to anyone in the bourgeois sense of it. My past relationships made me realize how I'm not fit to be anyone's significant other (or other half, girlfriend, or however it is called), at least at the moment. I have so much to change about myself and my views in "romantic" relationships; in fact, I have so much to change about myself, period. I don't want anyone suffering while I struggle to get rid of the monster in me. A proletariat relationship, I'm actually considering. But honestly, I don't know. I don't want to think about it yet. For now, I want to be independent and unattached to anyone but the mass. I don't need a man to be happy. I don't want to be the damsel in distress, because I am not. I don't need a prince charming nor a knight in shining armor to save me... or something like that.

Anyway, I'm just glad I like my given name so much I had to use it as my email address. #labolang